It happened again this week – a childhood friend had enough of life, and ended his. It wasn’t the first time it has happened with those I have known. But it doesn’t get less painful, or less heartbreaking…and distance of friendship over time doesn’t change a thing. It’s like suddenly the world grinds to a halt, and there’s a definitive end. Where there is life, there is hope… but when life ends, you can’t go back and say the things you wish you could have said, and there are no more second chances.

Nearly every time I have seen this happen, it has come out of a great hopelessness. A hopelessness birthed by a longing for fulfillment, but searching for it in all the wrong places. We all desire acceptance, fulfillment, and the feeling of having made a difference in the word. But oh-so many people seek after these things by chasing darkness. The devil makes many promises to broken, needy hearts, but never delivers. He may entice, but there cannot be any true hope or peace or fulfillment apart from Christ. Jesus is the only one who can break us out of the bondages to sin and darkness, and give us a hope and a future…but so many people do not know that. Now, all of us know someone like this – and, more likely, many “someones”. But, they continue in their dark and empty pursuits day after day. Why? We think it is more caring to just let them live how they want, and not “judge them” or make them feel uncomfortable by sharing Jesus with them.

But how can they know, unless someone tells them? How can they see that breaking God’s laws always leads to emptiness and pain, unless someone cares enough to tell them that what they are doing is, in fact, sin…and that they end of it will be darkness and destruction…and then, takes them by the arm, and shows them that there is, in fact, a better way.

How can they escape the quicksand unless someone tells them what it is that is engulfing them, and then throws them a lifeline?

Do we care enough to speak up?
Will we reach out with their lifeline before it is too late?

Suicide is an epidemic. We can’t tell what is going on in each person’s heart and mind, but from what I have observed, it seems that a greater number of people struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts than those who don’t. You just don’t know who is planning the end of their own life next, or when. We had a woman come to a concert outreach my family did recently, who was planning to kill herself the very next day! But instead, that night she found freedom and hope as she received a new heart from Jesus!

There is nothing that compares to seeing the chains of darkness and despair fall off, and the light of hope in Christ fill a person’s eyes. Prayerfully consider what you can do to reach out with the hope that only Jesus can bring to those you know who are walking down dark and dangerous roads, instead of just closing your eyes to their heart needs, and dismissing their pursuits that will end in emptiness, pain, and
dark despair.

Silence is not caring.
Truly caring is speaking up, and, like Jesus, wishing that none should perish.

“My brothers, if anyone among you wanders from the truth and someone brings him back, let him know that whoever brings back a sinner from his wandering will save his soul from death and will cover a multitude of sins.” (James 5:19-20 ESV)

Written by TAI


  1. Katie Westenberg March 9, 2016 at 10:00 pm Reply

    Amen! Such beautiful words. I heard a message by Steven Furtick recently in which he said that the gospel can seem offensive to some, but how much more offensive are we being if we know hope, know truth, and are unwilling to share it? Hard truth.

    • Tai Sophia March 10, 2016 at 2:45 pm Reply

      Yes! So true! It’s a hard thing to really make true in our daily lives and actions, but so very necessary! Otherwise…what is the point of being a Christian, if we can’t offer real hope to the hopeless?

  2. Aly March 9, 2016 at 10:28 pm Reply

    I’m so sorry this is so hard.

    • Tai Sophia March 10, 2016 at 2:46 pm Reply

      It is hard…but also a good and important wake-up call for us all.

  3. Leigh March 10, 2016 at 2:01 pm Reply

    I’m so sorry for your loss. People need Christ’s hope. I think part of that is being sensitive and listening and being willing to walk with people through their struggles. Depression is hard–and Christians aren’t immune to it.

    • Tai Sophia March 10, 2016 at 2:47 pm Reply

      Yes. I long to be a better friend and to be available for anyone any time….to talk, listen, pray, and help in every way I can. By God’s grace, I hope to grow in this more and more.

  4. andrea March 10, 2016 at 11:45 pm Reply

    better that we share it with others – what they do with it is up to them

  5. Homegrown Adventures March 12, 2016 at 5:31 pm Reply

    I’m so sorry for your loss. Discouragement is a tool that Satan uses too often. It then can lead to depression. Yes. Totally agree that we need to never keep quite and should always share Christ with others. Depression is so real and people should not be quite about it.

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