Single? 3 Ways to Have the BEST Valentines Day EVER!
Valentine’s Day. That blissful time of year when all of your “non-single” friends get chocolate, and flowers, and romantic candlelight dates. That dreaded time of year when you hide out under your covers, eat lots of chocolate (that you bought yourself), and avoid everything pink, red, or even remotely romantic. That, or you’re one of those people who actively torture yourself by scrolling through Facebook, looking at all the sweet things that people did with their “significant other”, and you cry yourself to sleep listening to gushy love songs. [Some people do it to themselves…just saying. 😉 ]
It’s a wonderful holiday that seems to have been instituted just to remind you of your definite singleness…again. Not dissimilar to pouring lemon juice on a paper cut [Note: DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME — Just take my word for it.]…or having text messages sent to you continually about the HUGE sale that your favorite store is having…right when you’re completely, totally broke.
So, what’s a single gal to do??
Well, you CAN hole yourself up in your room all day, and have a great big pity party…by yourself. But, I mean…again?? Really?? OR…what if you tried something different this year?
Here are 3 ideas to help you have a Valentines Day worth remembering this year!
1. Pray for your single girl-friends.
Start now – don’t wait! Begin praying for each of your single girl-friends…and ask God to direct your prayers for them. Pray that God would encourage their hearts, and surround them in His love this year. Even ask Him to give you specific scriptures that relate to how you can pray to them, or that would be an encouragement to them. Praying for others is one of the very best ways to get your eyes off of yourself, and get out of your own pity-party. Making a list may help you to remember to pray for them, and to not forget anyone.
2. Ask God to show you how to be a blessing to them.
As you’re praying for your friends, ask God to show you how you can be a blessing to them. Ask Him for ideas of things you can do that would encourage their hearts, and show God’s love to them. Ask God to make you His hands and feet to show them His love this year.
And then…do it. Whatever God shows you — put it into action! It may take some real time and effort…and even money, but God will bless you for all you give. Write out the scriptures God gives you into sweet cards. Share whatever word of encouragement God puts on your heart for them. Buy them some flowers…or chocolate…or both! What do you wish someone would do for you? Now go and do that for them! If you really want to go all-out, you can even plan a special evening to invite them over, decorate, and make them a special meal! Or what about a special girls’ spa night, and devotion time, where you can pray together (spending time with Jesus together is always the sweetest thing)! The possibilities are endless when you ask God for great ideas — He knows what will most bless each of your friends! And it might be something different for each one.
3. Spend time with Jesus.
This is last, but definitely most important of all, for truly having the best Valentine’s Day! Don’t forget to spend time with Jesus, and just enjoy His presence. Remember: He truly cares about you more than anyone else…and even after you have a loving relationship, and a blessed marriage, no guy can fill that spot in your heart that was meant for only Jesus to fill. You’re not just spending time with Jesus because you don’t have a boyfriend! You’re spending time with Jesus because HE is your Love, and your Life!!
Spend time thanking Jesus for all the ways He has shown His love for you this year — even write some of them down to be a reminder of His goodness for you when you’re discouraged. Don’t rush — how would you like it if you were out for a special time with someone and all they did was look at their watch the whole time?? Take your time to really enjoy God’s presence, and be a real friend for Him.
And why don’t you take some time to actually write God a love-letter this year? Tell Him all the things you love about Him, and that you can’t imagine your life without Him. Even pray about what you can give Him as a gift this year — it can be something as simple as giving Him your worries about the future, and committing to trust Him more, and not fear about the future.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?? Do you have any other ideas for having a blessed Valentine’s Day? Have you ever tried reaching out to those who are lonely on Valentine’s Day? If someone was going to do something kind for you on Valentine’s Day, what do you think you would bless you the most? Now…how can you take that and use it to bless others? Share your thoughts in the comments! We’d love to hear from you, and even feature some of your ideas here!
Last year on Valentine’s after our bible study we went out in groups of about 4 to the streets and handed out Valentine’s cards we made with scripture verses and little bags with sandwhiches and granola bars for some homeless people on the streets. We also made signs that said free hugs and free prayers and asked if we could pray about anything for the people we met and talked to! It was an amazing night! 🙂
Aw! Those are great ideas Shannon! Thanks for sharing!
Loved this post. I’m not single but I totally understand how hard it can be. Love is not only for couples. It’s for kids..families.. Friends…I love your tips. Yes praying and spending time is the best. I’m praying for my kiddos future spouse’s already.
Yes! That is an awesome thing to do! I am so thankful that my parents prayed a lot for my future spouse!